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Alecia Stevens's avatar

This is heart-breaking. But your clarity is like a star. Thank you.

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david coe's avatar

You will survive, I can feel it in your writing 🌹thank you.

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Stanley Stocker's avatar

Her loss.

But I know the breadcrumbing must be painful. I'm sorry she did that to you.

Give Cody a big hug. ❤️

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Free Tree's avatar

Get a dog , they really love you

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Alisa Valdes-Rodriguez's avatar

You must be new here. I have two amazing dogs.

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Jstn Green's avatar

So sorry you are going through that. Been there many times myself, but men are supposed to be able to tough it out. To power through, right? Btw, if I were still a young man, I'd be happy to "court you" (as the real old timers say LOL) I LOVE how your brain works, and ultimately that's the most attractive thing of all. Who cares about weight? People gain and lose weight all the time, they still go on being who they are. I dated skinny women and heavy women. It never affected how much I liked them. Anyway, be strong. You have people out here who love you, myself included.

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Cori G's avatar

You’re too real for her and she betrayed your heart and trust. I am sorry you got hurt. Anyone would have been.

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Lauren's avatar

I can only imagine how painful going through this must've been. But I must say, you have incredible strength, it comes through in your writing. I'm happy for you, this situation brought new perspective and I think for you, a better understanding of your value. Only good can come from this!

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Priscilla Poupore's avatar

Arctodus Simus hugs

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Sharon Cortelyou's avatar

Beautiful piece.

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Emily Layman's avatar

Wow! Way to be strong and remaining true to YOU. I am glad you are taking it as a learning experience and not internalizing it to anything being wrong with YOU.

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Bruce Johnson's avatar

“Breadcrumbing” is a new term to me- is the metaphor in the tiny leftovers inadequate for even a snack, the trail markers the jays eat in Hansel and Gretel, or something else that points out the shady side of people who can’t reveal who they are?

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Amy Kaplan's avatar

Cowards abound.

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DeeceX's avatar

I m a cisgender male (I think that's the terminology) and have also been disappointed in love. All I ask for is — and this should be easy — reciprocity.

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Just Another Jim's avatar

Beautiful piece, I love that even in loss you’ve refused to withdraw. I have been on both sides of this, mostly because I never had the courage of my bi desires, and your essay really helped me to understand what I really did.

P.S. Got my copy of Where Rabbits Gathered last night, bought it based solely on the power of your ‘Stacks! 😉 Can’t wait to start it!

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