When I first heard Mayoral Candidate Jessica Ramos a couple months ago, it was on WBAI FM in NYC. I was disappointed that a so-called progressive suggested we needed to dismantle rent stabilization by kicking out tenants who “outstayed their welcome.” We need more rent-stabilized units, not fewer. This morning, Ramos endorsed neoliberal menace, carceral enthusiast, serial harasser, and nipple-ring afficianado Andrew Cuomo for NYC mayor. My point is that my first impression was accurate. I need to trust when my guts clench, it’s important data to consider as events unfold. Thanks for your NPD analysis as it pertains to the federal circus. Such entertainment! Now if they only provided bread ….
Alisa, you nailed it. I grew up with this, married it twice, and have encountered it in more places than I care to think of. I saw this in 2016. And you’re spot on with the observation that this is a sad testament to the prevalence of child abuse in America.
That we elevate and admire blustering bullies is nothing new. Thorstein Veblen wrote about it in The Theory of the Leisure Class, which was published in 1896.
I subscribed a few weeks ago after reading your post about the "daddy problem". Thank you for clearly explaining the patterns I have experienced. I wish I saw them earlier. I wish someone told me that they were not normal, and that there was a psychological explanation. I wish I knew I was not alone. Thankfully, I survived (your three stages of NPD behavior are spot on!) and I am out of the abusive relationship. Right now, instead of "smoothing it over", we all have to speak the truth and label things as they are.
When I first heard Mayoral Candidate Jessica Ramos a couple months ago, it was on WBAI FM in NYC. I was disappointed that a so-called progressive suggested we needed to dismantle rent stabilization by kicking out tenants who “outstayed their welcome.” We need more rent-stabilized units, not fewer. This morning, Ramos endorsed neoliberal menace, carceral enthusiast, serial harasser, and nipple-ring afficianado Andrew Cuomo for NYC mayor. My point is that my first impression was accurate. I need to trust when my guts clench, it’s important data to consider as events unfold. Thanks for your NPD analysis as it pertains to the federal circus. Such entertainment! Now if they only provided bread ….
Alisa, you nailed it. I grew up with this, married it twice, and have encountered it in more places than I care to think of. I saw this in 2016. And you’re spot on with the observation that this is a sad testament to the prevalence of child abuse in America.
Exquisite reveal
That we elevate and admire blustering bullies is nothing new. Thorstein Veblen wrote about it in The Theory of the Leisure Class, which was published in 1896.
I subscribed a few weeks ago after reading your post about the "daddy problem". Thank you for clearly explaining the patterns I have experienced. I wish I saw them earlier. I wish someone told me that they were not normal, and that there was a psychological explanation. I wish I knew I was not alone. Thankfully, I survived (your three stages of NPD behavior are spot on!) and I am out of the abusive relationship. Right now, instead of "smoothing it over", we all have to speak the truth and label things as they are.
Excellent... again... as always... thank you, Alisa!
You nailed it. Been there. Married it. Have had to learn all the lessons to never again fall for it. LA is part of the fall out.